I enjoy seeing married couples travel the world and go out on dates. I’m a sucker for love. However, there’s married couples like myself who were blessed with the gift of parenting. Travelling the world and being wined and dined is still possible but not at our leisure. Our children come first. I also have to acknowledge the couples who may be strapped for cash. You would love to indulge in a pick 2 for $20 but you don’t even have $5 to put towards drinks! Don’t feel ashamed. My husband and I been there, done that, and got the t-shirt. Then there’s times you simply want to switch it up. That’s why I had to share my secret to having the perfect home date.
Many people might think negatively of a home date. You live there. That’s not exciting. Right? Wrong! The best part? You can plan it with your love or make it a surprise. Home dates also allow you to tap into that creative gene. Below I’m going to share with you a few home dates that were an ultimate success pre and post baby. Feel free to tailor them to you and your husband’s tastes.
Before I lay the goods on you there are a few tips I do have to assist you in making your date night a success.
- Don’t overthink it. The internet and apps like Pintrest can be your greatest ally or enemy. You want to do something new and exciting which is wonderful but don’t go beyond your means. Home dates are supposed to be enjoyable and stress free. The ultimate point is to be resourceful so don’t feel bad if you can’t create a desert oasis in your living room. I found that surfing the web is awesome for inspiration, everything else is all me.
- Rethink the word ‘date’. In order to make a home date a success you have to see it as an actual date. This is not a Netflix and chill situation. Don’t be afraid to dress the part for the occasion. This is your time to go outside the box even if a date is something simple.
- Mix it up. After you discover that your first home date was more than you imagined discipline yourself and don’t immediately repeat it. I know you’ll want to replicate it. You rocked it out! However, throw this in your bag of tricks to pull out at a later time. Instead, try a new set-up and theme.
- Plan. This is exceptionally true if you’re a parent or have a demanding job. Planning ahead is a saving grace. This is supposed to be fun from beginning to end. Take out the stress by taking your time to iron out the minor details. Have a baby or other little one at home? Plan a naptime so you can be refreshed and energetic when your husband gets home. Plan how you’re going to execute your date to perfection. Answering when (date and time), where (bedroom, living room, balcony), how (items you’ll need), and what (what are you going to eat, what are you going to do) will take you a long way.
- Take it easy. Although planning is necessary don’t go haywire if something goes wrong. We can’t anticipate the future. Take everything in stride. As I’ve stated, tap into your creative gene. If you end up burning the main course, you’ll need to! I always set up a back-up plan. Either way, if something fails take a breath and continue to make it great.
Now that we’ve covered some basic points to help you achieve your goal of a perfect home date let’s get into some date options:
- Romantic. Who’s not a sucker for romance? We could always use some extra spice in our marriages. The typical clichés of candlelight, rose petals, and bubble baths are always an excellent choice. Create an ambiance of love. Don’t stress about creating a sexy meal. This is a great time to cook your husband’s favorite or perhaps a meal you both enjoy. If you want to try your hand a more sensual menu be my guest. Top it off with a delicious dessert. This type of date is about the ultimate indulgence, including each other. Wear something that not only makes you feel beautiful but makes your man’s eyes pop! Other things you can include in this sensual evening are body massages, reading a poem or love letter, cuddling with honest conversation.
- Movie Night. Okay, okay. I know I said no Netflix and chill and I meant that. Make this movie night thoughtful. Pick a movie theme and make that the focus. For example, watching a classic like Goodfellas? Have an Italian feast to commemorate the night. If you want to go the simple route be more creative with your snacks. Create a movie bar to take your popcorn that extra mile. Set out toppings such as chocolate or fruity candies, chocolate sauce, or caramel. You can do the same with ice cream. Want to do something other than popcorn? Muddy Buddies are always a delight.
- Taco Tuesday. Tacos are taking over! You don’t necessarily have to wait until Tuesday to do this and you don’t have to only make tacos. Quesadillas are a hassle free option that I enjoy making. Enchiladas are an awesome way to land some leftovers to give you a break for all your hard work. A personal favorite is getting a few small bags of nacho chips like Doritos and setting up a bar of toppings. Simply add the toppings into the bag and nibble away! You can easily fry up some churros for dessert. Get festive!
- Game Night. I recommend this for the couples who have a competitive edge. Hopefully, no one is too much of a sore loser. Game night may seem ordinary but there’s a few ways you can execute this:
o Classic- Dust off the board games, ladies! If you’re not a fan of board games such as Monopoly, card games and dominos are also within reach. I’ve enjoyed board game spin-offs such as Scrabble Slam.
o Video Games- I know plenty of wives who would willingly auction off their husband’s game system. Take this night to join his fun. You may surprise the both of you and be a natural.
o Obstacle Course- Have your own Olympic games! Set up challenges to flex those muscles. Make sure to wear the appropriate gear, don’t do it in inclement weather, and ensure to be hydrated.
Have an award for the winner. Make the prize interesting. Perhaps the victor is exempt from household chores for the weekend. If you have the cash to spend, get a trophy made.
- Spa Day. Women aren’t the only ones who like to get pampered. This is a day geared towards relaxation. Normally my husband and I include manicures, pedicures, and foot rubs onto the list. You and your honey can also slather on a good facial, play some calming music, prop up your feet and relax. Cap it off with a cold pitcher or lemon or cucumber water like the pros.
- Shower Time. This may seem so odd but to newbie parents it’s as close to a date as you can get in the beginning. I remember reading an article that recommended taking a shower or bath for a date. For the week when your house schedule is hectic taking time to scrub each other down is the perfect way to unwind before getting a good night’s sleep.
Now that you’ve learned the tricks of the trade for a perfect home date, start planning your own. Don’t forget to be creative, have fun, and be stress free.
What other type of home date ideas would you recommend?